Help I Don’t Know What to Do?
Dear Survivor,
I just received a letter from my brother with a vague apology for his abuse against me.
He just started a 12-step program for drugs and alcohol. A huge part of me wants to unleash on him and detail every horrible thing he has done to me.
Another part of me just wants him to crash and burn.
Signed,
What To Do?
Dear What To Do,
First of all, you don’t have to do anything. Just because he is ready to apologize doesn’t mean that you are ready to deal with him.
It would be good to talk to a professional before you get caught up in something you are not ready to delve into.
One way or another dealing one on one with him may feel a bit too dangerous.
Clearly, the letter itself evoked a lot of feelings.
Pace yourself and deal with him on your terms.
It would be good to talk to a professional before you get caught up in something you are not ready to delve into.
One way or another dealing one on one with him may feel a bit too dangerous. Clearly, the letter itself evoked a lot of feelings. Pace yourself and deal with him on your terms not his. There is absolutely no way to gauge the sincerity of his apology.
Do what feels safest, but don’t do it alone.
